If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person's religion is worthless. James 1:26This person's religion is worthless. Does this not demonstrate the power of the tongue? It nullifies works, it repudiates religion. That is the power that our words hold. Whether or not our religion is valuable is determined by our ability to speak well or hold our tongue. There is power in the way that we speak about people. We find ourselves forgetting that our words have power. We love to live blissfully unaware that what comes from our mouths can either edify and build-up or demean and tear-down. Or worse–we don't care about the power of our words. There's a strange satisfaction that comes along with slandering a fellow man. It's not a satisfaction that brings joy to us, instead it's a satisfaction that furthers us in our misery; gossip is gratifying because it allows us to wallow in our own fleshly and despicable desires. It allows us to bring others down into that pit with us, too. It's easy not to care about the power of words. What's hard is yielding our power of preference for the well-being and good of our brothers and sisters in Christ. But as is with many cases, the harder route is the path to true joy.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29I think some of us find the strength to gossip if we know what we're saying is true. We trick ourselves into believing the lie that because something is true gives good reason to tell that fact to your best friend or your mother or your sister. Or we tend to put the disclaimer on our gossip: "well, if she was here right now, I'd totally say this all to her face," as if that would make it permissible. Maybe. But more likely it wouldn't. Let's think critically about what Ephesians 4:29 is saying. What comes from our mouths should be edifying to the body, and in turn glorifying to God. "Corrupting talk" seems to be a pretty broad spectrum. And I don't think that is by mistake. Instead, I think the Apostle knew very well that we needed a broad spectrum; we need this so that we spend time discerning what words cause corruption and what words cause edification. He knew we needed a rubric that would require and demand us to pause before we actually said anything that had the potential to strip someone of their dignity. Matthew 12:36 reminds us that, "I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak." Each of us will have to give an account for the words we choose. Each of us will have to file through the many excuses we've had to speak carelessly. Unfortunately for us, reasons like, "but my mentor was doing it, too," or "but at least I didn't lie," won't really seem like very good reasons anymore. This problem runs so deeply in our society that it is a profound sin among believers. We will do just about anything to excuse and condone the sins that we like to commit. We are good at making sure our fleshly desires are well-fed, never hungry. We are fearful in keeping one another accountable for the words we choose. We struggle with self-control over our tongues. We're wary of cutting a conversation short that begins to get too unwholesome. But there is hope for overcoming this sin and it will altogether testify that Jesus is greater than our flesh and our desires. Together, let's take away the landing-pad for gossip. Let's starve our appetites for slander. Let's fixate ourselves to the One worth talking about, instead.